Parenting

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I was raised in a home where the consequence to any kind of misbehavior was going to result in painful agony to my backside. I'm not in any way saying i have bad parents or that i was abused in any way. That's just how my parents were raised and that's how they raised my brothers and I. They were loving parents and they gave us everything we wanted, but they were very strict and there wasn't much leeway for mess ups.

I guess they thought they had to instill fear in us so that we would behave. I believe differently, I believe communication and positive role modeling is key to raising an upstanding adult. Times are different and kids have many more right than when we were growing up. Corporal punishment isn't an option anymore, especially in public. 

My parenting is very much different than the way my parents raised us for several reasons the biggest difference is that I'm a single parent and my boys father is not around to help with punishment. When my kids were younger, I maybe spanked them a hand full of times. I preferred talking to them about what they did wrong and my disciplinary actions consisted of time outs, then as they grew older i started to take things they really enjoyed away for a day or two. My boys are now 11 and 13 yrs old, pre-teen and teenager. There's a big difference in the way I talk to them now and how i talked to them when they were 6 and 8. They are both good kids but they have their mess ups and now even if I wanted to I really don't have the option of spanking since they are big and it doesn't hurt them anymore. My oldest is 5 inches taller and out weighs me by 35 lbs, my youngest just a tad bit smaller in stature than me. Parenting is a hard job, at-least for me it is, and its nerve wrecking knowing that the outcome of my decisions on how i raise my boys affects so many people. I hope and pray my best is good enough.

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